How to Prepare toddlers for family photos | Alison hatch Photo

There’s something uniquely magical about this stage of life: the endless energy, the mood swings, the giggles that come from nowhere, and the fierce declarations of independence (even if they’re still figuring out how to zip their own jacket). Toddlers are a whirlwind of personality, and capturing that on camera can feel equal parts exciting and intimidating.

As a mom, you already know the beauty of their quirks—and as a photographer, I’m here to remind you that those quirks make for incredible photos. Family photo sessions with toddlers can be fun and relaxed, and with a little preparation, they’ll bring out the best in your little one’s personality.

Here are my favorite tips for preparing your toddler for family photos:

1. Match the Energy You Want to See

Your toddler is a sponge. If you’re rushing, stressed, or frazzled, they’re going to feel that too. On the morning of your session, create a calm and joyful atmosphere. Put on their favorite music while you get them ready, speak gently, and sprinkle in some excitement about what’s ahead (“We’re going to take some pictures together! It’s going to be so fun!”). If you model patience and playfulness, they’ll be much more likely to mirror that during the session.

2. Keep Bribes to a Minimum

It’s tempting to promise a big reward for good behavior, but here’s the catch: dangling bribes can often backfire, leaving your toddler hyper-focused on the treat and less engaged in the actual session. Instead, try smaller, natural incentives like clapping, cheering, or letting them explore a fun toy. If you bring snacks, choose ones that are mess-free and quick to eat so there’s minimal cleanup.

3. Consider Bringing a Helper

If possible, invite a grandparent, aunt, or trusted friend to tag along. Having an extra set of hands to manage bags, snacks, or even distract your toddler with silly antics can be a game-changer. Helpers can also step in for quick toddler breaks while I capture photos of just you and your partner.

4. Plan for Meltdowns… Because They’re Going to Happen

No matter how prepared you are, toddlers will toddler. They might decide they hate their shoes, need a snack immediately, or suddenly refuse to stand still. It’s all part of the process. Come prepared with a favorite comfort item, like a stuffed animal or blanket, and give yourself permission to go with the flow. Some of the best photos come from those in-between moments when your toddler’s personality shines through—whether they’re pouting, laughing, or somewhere in between.

5. Embrace Who They Are

Your toddler isn’t meant to sit still, smile perfectly, or follow instructions like a pro model. They’re meant to explore, squirm, and throw a little sass your way. That’s what makes them so special! Instead of having a specific picture-perfect pose in mind, let’s capture your family just as you are. The goal is to create a snapshot of this fleeting stage, not to turn your toddler into someone they’re not.

Toddlers Are Magic

Their moods might swing faster than you can say “smile,” but that’s what makes them so captivating. Their curiosity, boundless energy, and uninhibited personalities make for some of the most heartfelt, authentic photos. When you look back on these pictures, you’ll see the real story of your family’s love—messy moments and all.

So, take a deep breath, mama. You’ve got this. I’ll be there to guide you, distract your toddler when needed, and capture the beauty in every single mood they bring to the session. Let’s embrace the chaos and make magic together.

Hi there, I’m Alison

A passionate photographer known for capturing authentic, emotional moments. Based in North County San Diego, I like to blend artistry with storytelling to create timeless images that celebrate connection and individuality for my clients and personal work.

You can find my work published in The Front Steps Project book and multiple online magazines such as Shoot It With Film and Heartful. Guest started on Podcasts like The Creative Frame and This Can’t Be That Hard.

When I’m not photographing families or coaching photographers on their creative process, you can find me in the garden, beach, with my family, or binge-watching with my current knitting project in hand.